We Can Break Out Of Unhealthy Patterns And Choose A Different Path
Life can be difficult, but each of us has the potential to recognize negative patterns and free ourselves from reactive thoughts and behaviors. By increasing our present-moment awareness, we can gain clarity and have more control over how we respond to life’s stressors. This can prevent us from falling back on automatic reactions that contribute to depression, anxiety, and addiction.
As a therapist, I want my clients to experience this freedom. No matter where you are in your journey, my goal is to help you get to the root of your struggles, cultivate self-compassion, and experience positive change in every area of your life.
My Passion For Working With The LGBTQIA+ Community
I work with individuals, couples, and families and have an awareness of systemic oppression and historical trauma. As a queer and trans therapist, I work particularly closely with the LGBTQIA+ community and can relate to many of my clients’ struggles. I am also kink-aware and work with people who are monogamous, ethically non-monogamous, and polyamorous. My clients feel that they can bring all of themselves into the room.
How I Approach The Healing Process
While my approach varies depending on the client’s needs, I often consider how past relationships—especially early childhood ones—impact the present day. For instance, if our childhood caregivers weren’t respectful of our needs, we may struggle to find the love we need as adults. Psychotherapy can help us heal emotional wounds and choose healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
My approach to therapy is one of deep and empathetic listening informed by years of meditation practice. Although I offer secular therapy, I incorporate Buddhist teachings and practices that can help clients cultivate mindfulness and self-compassion. In addition to my daily meditation practice, I have spent a total of six months in Buddhist monasteries, completed more than 100 days of silent retreats, and served as a Buddhist chaplain.
A Little Bit About Who I Am
My clients appreciate my open-mindedness, intelligence, and ability to meet people where they are. Outside of therapy, I enjoy reading and traveling. Although I spent most of my adult life in San Francisco and New York City, I currently live with my partner on a forest farm.
I serve on the board of the TransGender Education Association (TGEA) of Greater Washington, DC. I also offer workshops and professional education courses on gender identity issues at many different venues.
I would be honored to help you cultivate compassion for yourself and enjoy a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Liam Montanarelli (he/him or they/them) is a licensed therapist in Ellicott City, Maryland. He received his Master of Social Work from the University of Maryland in May of 2022. He has a BA from Yale and a PhD from UC Berkeley, both of which are in comparative literature. In addition to working as a therapist, Liam has taught courses in the humanities at UC Berkeley and Hunter CUNY.