Is your family stuck in never-ending loops of disagreements, frustrations, and resentments? Perhaps emotional disconnection, misunderstandings, and taking sides have caused the relationships between members to suffer. Failure to find common ground and resolution may be resulting in feelings of despair, irritation, and sadness.
The stage your family is in could be exacerbating already strained relationships. If you have teenagers, the changing dynamics within your household may create turmoil. Not only are they asserting their independence and finding their own voice, but as their parent, you might be experiencing an identity crisis now that they’re no longer relying on you as much.
Or maybe your family is dealing with a member with a prolonged illness or nearing the end of life. The emotional toll of coping with different aspects of loss, managing reversed roles in caretaking, and navigating that member’s dwindling independence could be creating tension and stress. Sadly, these dynamics could be the backdrop for more arguments and tension than your family has ever encountered before.
The online therapy we offer should make it easier to find time for counseling instead of trying to get every family member in the therapist’s office at the same time. As long as the family members are physically present in the same state where the therapist is credentialed to practice, they can attend from different locations. In fact, recent studies show online family therapy is as effective as having to meet in person.
Oftentimes, not all family members are ready or willing to enter therapy. Their reluctance might be a symptom of the dysfunctionality within the family combined with a lack of trust that anything will change in the long term. However, a healthy change in family dynamics can still happen even if not all members agree to work with a counselor. When one part of the system changes, the larger system can improve. So, we encourage all members who are ready to make healthy changes to attend family therapy.
It makes sense that you feel so resigned and discouraged. After all, how can a therapist who doesn’t know your family help you? But you might be surprised by how powerful and healing the safe space of therapy can be. The controlled environment of counseling allows the different parts of each family member to come forward. Suddenly, you’re able to say things you’ve never expressed to each other before and experience your relationships differently. Although it can sometimes be hard work, family therapy does work.